Recalibrating Your Mindset To Get More Dates
by Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System For Men
If you’re interested in meeting more quality women, and want to know how to pick up girls in any situation, first I want to ask you one very important question:
When it comes to women, do you believe in ABUNDANCE, or do you believe in SCARCITY?
This is the key factor that separates “bulletproof players” who know what the girls want, from average, frustrated chumps.
Guys who have a scarcity mentality believe that single, attractive women are in very short supply.
Therefore, these guys feel they need to chase women, try to impress them, and spend money. Once they’re into a girl, they’ll do anything it takes to date them!
And if the girl rejects this guy, he feels frustrated and depressed, because he worries that he won’t get another chance anytime soon. He tells himself that he “blew it”…
Then, there are the guys who believe in ABUNDANCE.
These guys know that the universe has provided us with an endless supply of fun, sexy, single women.
They know that where they live, and the places where they hang out, contain any number of great options for having fun and meeting girls. They know what the girls like. They know what they girls want. And they know how to approach and talk to them with confidence and skill.
And if they venture beyond their town, maybe even outside of their country… the numbers become truly limitless!
For the “abundance attitude” guy, he knows there are literally an ENDLESS number of women who want to be with him!
And therefore, there is no reason to worry, or stress out, about finding a girlfriend right now, or chasing the “one girl” that we want.
The world is FILLED with opportunities.
It is essential that you develop this abundance mentality … and then, you need to know how to meet girls in the most effective, direct way.
The irony of having the abundance mentality is it means YOU become scarce to women.
Most women have an incredibly scarce mentality when it comes to men. They say, “all the good men are already married, or gay.”
Well, it’s time for you to blow their minds 
But first, you’ve got to make women feel that YOU are a scarce resource.
You can be into a girl…but don’t let her know it. You’ve got to play “hard to get.”
In other words, she should feel lucky to meet a guy like you — a guy who is charming, funny, interesting, and cool — but who doesn’t play the game by the traditional “rules.”
Being a scarce resource to women means:
• You don’t give a woman all of your time and attention.
• You don’t lavish gifts on her, or spend more than $30 on a date. (Meeting her for coffee or drinks is much more effective than taking her to a nice restaurant.)
• You’re not available to talk to her on the phone or chat on the internet for an hour every day, or see her any night of the week that she’s free to see you.
Once you start getting to know women and getting them attracted to you, and then limiting your availability, so they don’t always have access to you, you’ll be amazed by how much harder these girls are going compete for your attention and your affection.
This is what the girls want. A guy who is a CHALLENGE.
There’s a phrase that salesmen and marketers use, which is called “perceived value.” This means is if you create the perception that your product is scarce and in short supply — whether it’s true or not — people are going to want it that much more.
I’ll give you an example. A while back, I was interested in attending a seminar on how to make money in real estate. I live in Las Vegas, and there are lots of seminars like this coming to town. I went on the internet, and found out about two.
The website for seminar #1 said the ticket cost was $999, and there were only two seats left.
The website for seminar #2 was only charging $179, and mentioned nothing about availability… it just asked you to sign up and reserve your seat.
Obviously, I was far more curious about the $999 seminar. There were only two seats left (at least, that’s what they were saying) — so in my primal animal brain, that seminar immediately had much greater value.
I figured that spending more money on an elite seminar would get me better results than spending a lot less money on a seminar that didn’t seem to be in demand.
You see this sales tactic being used all the time. And it works, because scarcity creates perceived value.
With women, you want to be the “scarce and valuable guy.” The busier you appear to be, and the richer your social life seems, the more value women will place on you.
If she calls you on the phone to chat, and you tell her you can only talk for a minute because you’re heading out the door to a birthday party for your friend Jennifer, she’ll know that you’ve got other options. You know other women. You don’t need to be dating anyone right now.
And guess what. The girl on the phone? Her jealous, competitive instincts are now kicking in. You are a guy she wants to win because she sees you as a scarce, valuable resource. She’s not the only girl trying to spend time with you!
Maybe the ultimate example of what I’m talking about is the diamond industry. It’s a multi-billion industry built entirely on an illusion of perceived value.
How “valuable” is a diamond, really? They’re tiny crystals of carbon, that’s all! Sure, they’re shiny and pretty, but no one ever needed a diamond until the people controlling the industry teamed up with the world’s top advertising agency… and managed to convince us all that diamonds are the ultimate symbol of eternal romance.
(“Diamonds are forever…” “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend…” etc.)
If you loved a woman and wanted to marry her, now you had to shell out thousands of dollars for a diamond ring. She expected nothing less!
At the same time, the mining and production of diamonds is tightly regulated and controlled… so that demand will always far exceed supply.
The diamond cartels that control the industry in South Africa continue to pay millions of dollars to advertising agencies which force-feed women the notion that diamonds are incredibly rare, special, and romantic.
(Of course, once diamonds became this ultimate “status symbol,” all the rappers and pro athletes jumped on the bandwagon as well… which also encourages all the wanna-be’s to spend absurd amounts of money on diamond chains and earrings, since it means they’re “somebody.”)
Think about it. Perceived value. Do women view you as a diamond, or are you just one of a million ordinary stones they’d find on any beach?
Are you with me?
Good…
I want you to STOP being the average guy who takes the “scarcity” attitude…
The guy who meets a girl, and things seem to go well, but then she starts acting cold towards him… distant… NOT returning phone calls and emails… and so he starts to freak out and get depressed…
He’s desperate to get the girl back, to lock her down and make her his girlfriend… and what happens in these situations — nine out of ten times — is she runs in the other direction!
Why? Because once a guy has telegraphed his interest… and she perceives that he’s just another average, single guy who’s got no other options… and nothing much else going on in his life… she knows he has no value.
Instead of this, you need to be the PRIZE that women seek to CAPTURE.
You charm them, build up their attraction, and then you make them WORK to get your time and attention.
When you’re talking to girls, you “tease” them instead of agreeing with everything they say.
When they want to see you, you’re NOT always available.
And when you ARE with that girl, you impress her as a unique, original guy who could be with a million different women right now… but you’re giving her a chance to measure up to your standards.
And you’re not going to make it easy on ’em
Once you master this mindset, I’ve got over 101 tips & techniques on how to talk to girls that are absolutely KILLER.
Learn the rest of my lessons… we’re just getting started. Remember, there is an ENDLESS NUMBER of attractive single women out there, who are waiting to meet you … if you understand the right way to approach her, talk to her, and stimulate her attraction.
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
