About Carlos

Carlos Xuma is a dating and attraction advisor, as well as a motivational and life counselor. He’s the author of The Dating Black Book, Secrets of the Alpha Man, Approach Women NOW, the Alpha Immersion DVD program, the Advanced Audio Coaching Series (in its fourth year), and too many other articles to mention. He also produces a weekly podcast (available on iTunes) and a regular newsletter.

Carlos brings to the table a variety of life experiences, including a background in relationship skills, life-coaching, motivational psychology, sales, management, Martial Arts, teaching and instruction, technology and engineering, Eastern philosophy, the psychology of achievement, and music.

Yes, you can call him a bit of a Renaissance Man.

Carlos’ mission is to bring men and women together through awareness of both our traditional and contemporary gender roles. He conducts workshops and in-field training sessions, phone counseling, as well as group seminars.

Carlos Xuma has also been a guest advisor and author on numerous sites and respected dating publications, such as:

– ABC Television – “View from the Bay”

– The Allen Handelman “Rock Talk” Radio Show

– Maxim Radio

– Utopia Radio

– David DeAngelo’s Dating Gurus

– WorldTalk Radio

– Bikini Hangout

– A-Lovelinks-Plus

– Seduction Insider

– Don Juan Center

– Dating Newsletter

– Single Again

– Cliff’s List

– Dating Class

– The Dating Insider Book

– Man Mindset

– Summum Magazine (The French Canadian “Maxim”)

– Savvy Insider – the art of single living

– Focus News

– Fast Seduction 101

Carlos says: “I wanted answers to the riddle of women for years, and I finally decided that I was going to get them. I started reading all the books in the bookstore on the topic. When I realized they didn’t have the information I needed (or even a clue for guys, really), I started looking for books that talked about pickups and techniques and the “taboo” information that you couldn’t find anywhere else.

(I started this before there was an “internet,” mind you. 🙂

When I got as much as I could find (and that wasn’t a lot) I started trying and experimenting with women and dating. I got rejected and blasted, and occasionally I also got some success. I watched why certain guys did the things they did and noticed how their behavior influenced and built strong attraction in women.

I have spent years and years out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there’s no reason why any guy should have to go through that. That’s why I create these programs for men – and soon will be creating programs for women.

I wrote these e-books, crammed full of information that is practical, useful, and REAL. None of that “buy her roses/write her poems/tell her how you feel” stuff.

You know, life is a lot shorter than you think.

Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you should have done?

You only get one shot at this life, so seize this opportunity. It’s time to start winning.

Invest in yourself and learn the strategies and mindset that will make you successful not just with women but in LIFE.


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