Q & A with Carlos: Lost that loving feeling…

QUESTION: Lost that loving feeling …

I have been reviewing your material and in a nutshell from what I get from it is as long as you are confident and comfortable talking to women, and making them feel comfortable and making them want to come back and see more of you, you shouldn’t have a problem. pretty much common sense.

I am very confident in all my abilities, I am a 24 year old university student and aspiring architect, I get excellent grades. I am a part time entrepreneur and I am happy with the money I am making. I have close friends which I know I can trust. I can go out with people and be entertaining. I am emotionally independent. I am in control of most of the aspects of my life. I am grateful for what I have and can achieve.

So far I guess you are wondering why I say you can’t help me. I am a very ugly man, and if you saw me you would probably say I am right…

How do I get a beautiful woman or even just an average girl my age to look past the exterior. because what I noticed is a woman has to be at least mildly physically attracted to you for it to ever develop into any balanced relationship…
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CARLOS XUMA’S ADVICE:

I get this question from time to time, and the tone is usually the same: “My situation is hopeless, I’ve identified my limiting factor and I’ll never get past it. Now please tell me how to get past it.”

Do you see the contradiction here?

If it really was true that you are too ugly to get a woman, you would have accepted it by now. But there’s something deep inside you that knows that this isn’t true.

Here’s a complete play-by-play on what you need to do to get yourself more success with women.

1) Drop the negativity, and FAST.

You think that the ugly part is on the outside, but it’s a bitterness that taints you on the inside, too. And I can tell it by your tone. You’re angry about this.

Instead of getting angry, channel that energy into constructive change.

Ask yourself this: What if my worst suspicions were true… What would I do?

Would I crawl into a hole and die?

Or would I accept the facts and figure out a strategy to overcome it?

I think you know what the Alpha Man solution to that problem is, don’t you?

2) There are different forms of confidence. It sounds like you have some of the externally validated kind, but you don’t understand my concept of “ambient confidence.” I explain this in my Alpha Man programs.

But you have to realize that confidence in one area does not always translate into another. You must learn specific skills to be effective at dating. That is what you’ll learn in my programs. I don’t just tell guys to be confident – I show them HOW – along with the things you can do and say.

The difference is that I teach men HOW to be more confident. Not just blowing smoke up your ass telling you that you just “need to be confident.” Or “just do it!” You have to know how to “do it.”

3) You need to hold up against a woman’s first attempts to brush you off. This is the significant turning point of your game where YOU appear to be having problems. She will resist you initially, and it’s how you handle that initial resistance that will determine her opinion of you.

Do you make her feel comfortable with herself and you?

Do you put her at ease?

As a fellow advisor once said, if you at least put some effort into grooming and style, you will AT LEAST be a “5” out of “10” to a woman. Everything you do after you open your mouth either raises that or lowers that baseline.

Your looks only matter when you let them overshadow your confidence and persuasiveness. I see ugly guys dating good looking women ALL THE TIME.

Yes, you say that this is all common sense, but common sense ain’t so common, is it?

I never say you “shouldn’t” have a problem. Lots of guys do. But it starts with following my game plan for improving your own life at the same time.

Pursuing a woman has NEVER been the answer. (At least, the ONLY answer.)

But becoming an Alpha Man always will be.

And if you want to learn the Advanced Communication Strategies that I use to get women interested and KEEP them interested, you should look at this: Alpha Man Conversation & Persuasion

Chances are, you’re placing too much importance on finding a woman rather than finding your purpose here on this planet. Paul Coelho describes it as your Personal Legend.

I call it your Alpha Man destiny.

You must find it – and it’s not a woman.

But a woman makes a great companion on the journey! Which is why I show you how to find this destiny, AND attract women that you want into your sphere of Alpha influence.